Tantrums can range from crying to screaming, kicking to hitting
depending on the reason. It is considered a normal part of childhood
development. It is equally common for both boys and girls and takes
place in the age of 1-3 years. The intensity of tantrums also varies
from child to child, some may have it often and some once in a blue
moon. There are various circumstances that lead to tantrums in a child,
they are:
- When a child is hungry, tired or is not able to
get something they need, tantrums may take place. It is a skill to deal
with frustration and it takes time for children to overcome this
irritation.
- In the 2nd year of a child’s life, tantrums are
most common because language development starts from this year. They are
not able to say what they want or feel which in turn leads to a
frustrating experience further developing a tantrum. Once there is an
improvement in language, the intensity of the tantrum also decreases.
- Every
child wants independence and control of the environment. They think
that they are able to manage things all by themselves. But when they
discover that they are not able to do it and cant have everything that
they want, they have tantrums.
Tantrums cannot be eliminated but it can be prevented from happening in the first place. Here are some ways that can be of help
Do not let the child
feel that they are being forced to or dominated, let them take their
decisions. Allow them to make a choice by putting up questions like do
you want orange juice or apple juice? This way they will feel having a
control on the situation and the decision by them will also be well
kept.
The attention
span of little ones are very short, they cannot concentrate for a longer
period of time. Parents can make use of this opportunity and offer
something else which they cannot have. Children get frustrated too often
with the activity they perform and to get rid of this frustration,
parents can start a new activity in order to replace the irritation.
Example- Take your child outside or move to a different room.
- Learning New Skills Through Play
According to Maria Montessori “Play is the work of child”. A child can
imbibe a lot of skills through play. Toys play a major role in the
playtime of children. Provide your child with age appropriate toys and
see them flourish in the right direction. This way the child will stay
busy for longer period of time and moreover have less tantrums.
One must remember that tantrums are not the cause for concern and it
stops on its own. These few ways can reduce intensity of tantrums but it
cannot be avoided. As children grow, they get matured and gain control
of their temperaments. They learn to cooperate, communicate and cope
with frustration. Less frustration leads to fewer tantrums and further
happy parents.
Ways To Deal With Your Child’s Tantrums
December 22, 2018
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Tantrums can range from crying to screaming, kicking to hitting depending on the reason. It is considered a normal part of childhood development. It is equally common for both boys and girls and takes place in the age of 1-3 years. The intensity of tantrums also varies from child to child, some may have it often and some once in a blue moon. There are various circumstances that lead to tantrums in a child, they are:
Tantrums cannot be eliminated but it can be prevented from happening in the first place. Here are some ways that can be of help
Do not let the child feel that they are being forced to or dominated, let them take their decisions. Allow them to make a choice by putting up questions like do you want orange juice or apple juice? This way they will feel having a control on the situation and the decision by them will also be well kept.
The attention span of little ones are very short, they cannot concentrate for a longer period of time. Parents can make use of this opportunity and offer something else which they cannot have. Children get frustrated too often with the activity they perform and to get rid of this frustration, parents can start a new activity in order to replace the irritation.
Example- Take your child outside or move to a different room.
According to Maria Montessori “Play is the work of child”. A child can imbibe a lot of skills through play. Toys play a major role in the playtime of children. Provide your child with age appropriate toys and see them flourish in the right direction. This way the child will stay busy for longer period of time and moreover have less tantrums.
One must remember that tantrums are not the cause for concern and it stops on its own. These few ways can reduce intensity of tantrums but it cannot be avoided. As children grow, they get matured and gain control of their temperaments. They learn to cooperate, communicate and cope with frustration. Less frustration leads to fewer tantrums and further happy parents.